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Building blocks of successful couples counseling

Typical consultation occasions:

When couples get into recurring problem patterns, it is worth getting advice from a neutral third party who does not give advice or have hasty solutions. As a counselor, I am loyal and "impartial" to both partners (as far as a human being can be); I look at them as individuals, but also in terms of how they shape their relationship with each other. Typical problems are:

  • escalating communication with conflicts, arguments, threats, devaluations

  • Affairs or infidelities with feelings of guilt and loss of trust

  • Speechlessness in the relationship, which leads to alienation

  • impending separation in which crisis support/moderation is sought

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My approach is based on a concept shaped by a lot of experience that allows you to gain the necessary distance to be able to look at yourself and the other person again without bias. The key points of my work with you are:

  • Recognize and examine your own behavioral patterns

  • Better communication through a functioning culture of debate (keywords here are fairness and mutual respect)

  • explore the individual backgrounds for certain behaviors

  • Addressing speechlessness, formulating questions of meaning, rediscovering commonalities

How I work

"It takes two to tango!"

Recognize games and

Negotiate rules of the game

"Spinning straw into gold..."

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How to Devalue

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in the right places

looking for respect

"I see you as I am!"

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The art of reframing

in everyday relationships

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Ideally, both partners have decided to seek counseling. However, sometimes it makes sense for one of them to make the first move. I counsel both heterosexual and homosexual couples. As a systemic counselor, it is particularly important to me to help you clarify your own perspective and the ideas that arise from it. Simply realizing that there are sometimes significant differences between partners provides valuable starting points. Relationships are creative processes - we all forget that sometimes. There are "natural" phases in relationships that need to be recognized and actively managed. Feel free to call me to ask your questions in person.

Other relationship topics in my practice:

  • Lovesickness

  • Difficulties in choosing a partner

  • Unfulfilled desire to have children

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Make an appointment by phone Mobile: +49 (0)151-41 64 12 08

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